The Coaching Habit: Transform Your Leadership Style

10 reviews for The Coaching Habit: Transform Your Leadership Style

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   Wally Bock – February 15, 2026

   Simple (but not simplistic), Useful, and Practical
   You should buy and read The Coaching Habit by Michael Bungay Stanier if you’re interested in improving your performance as a manager and your team’s performance and morale.If you’re reading this review of a book on coaching for managers, you probably fall into one of two camps. You might be a manager who’s already doing some coaching or you’re a manager who hasn’t made coaching part of your toolkit yet.You may already have made coaching part of the way you manage. If that’s true. you can skip over the next section of this review and get right to why this book will be an excellent addition to the other coaching books you own.It’s also possible because you’re interested in adding coaching to your manager’s toolkit and you’re seeking a good book to get you started. Then the next few paragraphs are for you.The benefits of coaching are pretty straightforward and well documented. A boss who coaches his or her team members effectively will have a more productive team, have higher team morale, and will have a more enjoyable work life. OK, so why aren’t you doing it already? My experience suggests that there are three possible reasons.You may think that the coaching that managers do and the coaching that sports coaches do is the same. Nope. Sports coaches do a lot of telling and don’t ask many questions. The art of the coaching manager is the art of the question.Or, you may think that the coaching that managers do and the coaching that professional executive coaches do is the same. Nope. Professional coaches are a godsend for us. But they’re professionals with a bag full of professional tools and expertise. Coaching with them is an event that you put on your calendar. The art of the coaching manager is coaching “in the workflow” several times a day. That’s why it should be a habit.Or, you may think that the coaching that managers do requires deep knowledge of psychology and coaching theory. Nope. The fact is that all the great supervisors I studied coached routinely without a bit of specialized training. Heck, my mother used to do it with me and my sister.They all asked something like: “Why do you think that happened?” or “What do you want to do?” and then listened. It was all about conversation and part of the normal flow of life and work.That’s what this book is about. Ask more. Say less. Simple enough that this preacher’s boy can get it. Here are the details.What’s in this book?Coaching is simple. So is this book. Coaching is lean. So is this book.The first chapter is about why you need the coaching habit. The second chapter is about creating the coaching habit. Yes, habit, something you do reflexively several times every work day. The advice in this chapter is based on real science, not that nonsense about “28 days.”The next seven chapters are about seven questions you can ask Just seven and that’s enough. There are “Master Classes” that help you ask the questions effectively. There are pointers to videos and podcasts and other helps.Still not sure? Well, there’s good news. Check out the “Look Inside the Book” feature for the Kindle version of this book. That will give you the “Why” you’ll need to judge if the book is for youBottom Line: Five StarsIf you’ve already read several books on coaching, this book and the advice on habit building will be a wonderful addition to your library.If you’re trying to figure out if coaching will help you and how to get started, this is the perfect book to buy, read, and use.

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   John W. Pearson – February 15, 2026

   The Best Coaching Question in the World
   Oh, my.MEMO TO EVERY PERSON I’VE PRETENDED TO COACH OR MENTOR: I’m so, so sorry! Honest!Here’s why. This month I was a learner in a seminar with CEOs and board chairs. The highly energetic, wise and witty facilitator was Michael Bungay Stanier, the author of the hot-off-the-press book, “The Coaching Habit.”At a coffee break, halfway through the three-hour, how-to-coach practicum, I told Stanier that—already—the seminar was on my Top-10 list of best workshops ever attended (and I’ve attended my fair share). Here’s why I gave it a 10:Three memorable points on coaching:–BE LAZY: Stop working so hard.–BE CURIOUS: Stop giving so much advice.–BE OFTEN: Stop waiting to coach.And how’s this for role reversal? I’m usually reading snippets from books to my wife. She picked this up first and is still reading—and reminding me—on what effective coaching looks like, especially the “stop giving so much advice” poke-in-the-ribs. Ouch.Stanier notes that “Harland Howard said every great country song has three chords and the truth. This book gives you seven questions and the tools to make them an everyday way to work less hard and have more impact.” The seven essential questions:–The Kickstart Question–The AWE Question–The Focus Question–The Foundation Question–The Lazy Question–The Strategic Question–The Learning QuestionStanier says the best coaching question in the world is the AWE question: “And What Else?”In a four-minute drill with another board chair, I was instructed to ask four questions displayed on the seminar room screen. Stanier says “the first answer someone gives you is almost never the only answer, and it’s rarely the best answer,” so the AWE question is the perfect follow-up.–Q1: What’s the real challenge here for you?–Q2: And what else?–Q3: And what else?–Q4: So what’s the real challenge here for you?In just four minutes—it was almost magical. I stuck to the bargain (whew—very hard) and just asked questions of my board chair partner. He responded to each question—and increasingly, in response to “And what else?” he dug deeper and deeper and—BINGO!—answered his own question and solved his own challenge.Where was this book when I was pretending to coach team members, clients, my son, my grandkids, and many, many others? Yikes!I’ve underlined gems on almost every page:–Although coaching is listed as one of the six essential leadership styles in Daniel Goleman’s article, “Leadership That Gets Results” (a Harvard Business Review classic), “it was the least-used leadership style.”–“You can build a coaching habit” and “You can coach someone in ten minutes or less. And in today’s busy world, you have to be able to coach in ten minutes or less.”–“Coaching should be a daily, informal act, not an occasional, formal ‘It’s Coaching Time!’ event.”Stanier’s humor sneaks up on you! As you embark on what he calls the “coaching habit,” he suggests you start somewhere easy:“If you’re going to manage someone differently, pick someone who might be up for it and is willing to cut you some slack. Or pick someone with whom it’s all going so badly that you’ve got nothing left to lose.”ANOTHER AHA! The author says there’s a huge difference between coaching for performance—and coaching for development. “Call them forward to learn, improve and grow, rather than to just get something sorted out.”A gargantuan fan of questions—versus answers—he quotes Nancy Willard: “Answers are closed rooms; and questions are open doors that invite us in.”“CUT THE INTRO AND ASK THE QUESTION” is another shot over the bow. He notes, “No James Bond movie starts off slowly. Pow! Within 10 seconds you’re into the action, the adrenaline has jacked and the heart is beating faster”—so “cut the preliminary flim-flam” in your coaching process. In 72-point font on page 52, Stanier shouts: “If you know what question to ask,get to the point and ask it.”TAME THE ADVICE MONSTER! “We’ve all got a deeply ingrained habit of slipping into the advice-giver/expert/answer-it/solve-it/fix-it mode.” (One study revealed that doctors interrupt patients with advice within 18 seconds. Ditto, perhaps, the rest of us.)Slow down and take a breath, says Stanier. “Even though we don’t really know what the issue is, we’re quite sure we’ve got the answer they need.”VP OF BOTTLENECKING. If your employee name badge should read “VP of Bottlenecking,” you must read this book. These seven essential coaching questions will help you coach others, and as Stanier perceptively writes, “Focus on the real problem, not the first problem.”There are dozens and dozens of more gems in this fresh, easy-to-read format (plus almost 50 full-page quotations—all PowerPoint-worthy). I just ordered eight books for colleagues who are coaching boards and CEOs this year.

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   samia – February 15, 2026

   Great book
   As a first-time manager, I have found it extremely helpful and beneficial in navigating my new role. I have been utilizing the insights and strategies outlined in the book extensively, and I must say it has significantly contributed to my growth and development as a manager.

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   Jason W. Bishop – February 15, 2026

   Transformative Guide to Effective Leadership!
   I’ve owned “The Coaching Habit” for over a year now, and I can confidently say it has revolutionized my approach to leadership. Michael Bungay Stanier offers practical, actionable advice that has made a significant difference in my coaching style. The seven essential questions laid out in the book are game-changers—they not only encourage deeper conversations but also empower my team to think critically and independently.What I love most is the focus on simplicity and clarity. Stanier’s engaging writing style makes it easy to understand and implement the concepts, even for someone who may not consider themselves a natural coach. The emphasis on asking questions rather than providing answers has allowed me to foster a culture of growth and exploration within my team.In the past year, I’ve noticed a marked improvement in team dynamics and individual accountability. This book isn’t just a read; it’s a toolkit for lasting change. I highly recommend “The Coaching Habit” to anyone looking to enhance their leadership skills and create a more engaged and empowered team. Five stars all the way!

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   jordan – February 15, 2026

   no fluff, focuses and to the point
   Great read, can do it in a day. Has video links, could not figure that out. I submitted my email and never heard back about access.

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   Kieran – February 15, 2026

   I’ve had this book since late 2017 and I’m halfway through reading it. I only wish I’d read it much sooner! I bought it at a time when I had plans to start some kind of coaching programme for clients of my accounting firm, but with no formal coaching skills or training I didn’t know where to start. As it turns out, I spent 2018 laying the foundations in my firm for all other services which would free up my time to get into coaching.Now, in 2019, I am venturing into coaching with clients and other accountants and this book is exactly what I needed to face my challenge, to build a structure around coaching sessions and to give my clients clarity on how coaching works and what can be achieved if they commit to the structure of the programme.An excellent, easy and practical read and suitable for anyone who wants to get into coaching themselves or others, or for managers looking to adopt a coaching habit with their team.Highly recommend!Michael breaks down 7 critical coaching questions that will revolutionise the way you engage with your peers and those you currently manage (but will soon be coaching!) It doesn’t just span your working life, but I’ve found it has helped in my personal life too; e.g., when a friend confides in me and is looking for help or a sounding board.The book is really quick to read. It’s concise enough that I didn’t find myself thinking, “yeah, yeah, I’ve got the reason why now get to how I improve in area x” yet it gave me enough that I felt I could go out and practice with it. One would have to be blind not to see the power in what is being said and in an era where there is enough momentum to confine ‘Command and control’ style leadership to the 80’s where it belongs, this book couldn’t be more timely.

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   Ahmed Gahman – February 15, 2026

   A great book, however, I still think the GROW model is more relevant. This book was talking more about the conversation techniques – and also loved how he inserted Karpman Drama Triangle which could happen during coaching, yet the solution was missing in the book i.e. The Empowerment Dynamic (TED) by David Emerald.

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   YA – February 15, 2026

   Great book to read in leisure time

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   Subramanian Sankaran – February 15, 2026

   If there was one book that lays bare the science of coaching in plain speak, here is the one. No jargons, very useful book references, plenty of videos for reinforcing learning at the end of very chapter makes this book a pleasure to read. Retention is guaranteed with repetition and cross references at apt occasions.

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    Silvia – February 15, 2026

    Non trovando l’edizione italiana ho acquistato quella in inglese, anche per esercitarmi.Lo trovo un testo molto utile, pratico e l’autore è molto divertente.Facile da leggere ed efficace.